Like a Brick Wall

My Mom has always told me that arguing with me is like "talking to a brick wall". Nothing seems to get through to my head and I'm stubborn in the way I think. I don't do something until I've made up my mind to do it. If you don't know me I'll let you in on a secret: I like to argue. For no reason.

I don't know why I like to argue, to state my point and see what someone else is really passionate about enough to defend it. I thrive under stress sometimes and this just makes my adrenaline flow and I have to think fast. But don't be mistaken I'm not a fan of the "point my finger at you and yell and then stalk off mad and use a series of expletives to describe my inner feelings". That's the easy way to prove yourself immature in an argument. I've learned how to control my temper and my emotions and learned how to speak my mind without screaming at the top of my lungs. It definitely takes self control. But I don't like to argue about petty things and I hope to not do that when I'm married-- I want to avoid that at all costs. It's a waste of time and energy. I like to argue about topics, concepts, ideas of thought, and personal opinions. This is what I consider arguing-- two different viewpoints defended and explored at a deeper level.

So if I argue with you consider it me getting to know you and maybe me taunting you to see how far you'll go. Of course I am really set off by someone trying to pick a petty argument with me. I'll probably dislike you for a while.

But I am truly thankful for my ironic gift of being able to forgive easily. I have found that growing up I used to argue with my Mom a lot about nothing. I could feel the muscles in my arms tense up and I'd just have to walk away and two seconds later me and mom were fine. Of course, she's my mother I would forgive her no matter what. In college I find that I argue at a more mature level and it's rather considered as a discussion. But I know my limits and I'm always the first to apologize if I see at all that someone has been offended by the way that I acted. I guess this is all that you need to know about how I argue... maybe you will encounter it one day- if you haven't already.