Jessica was a retard.
When it came to dating.
And now she learned her lesson.
And can discern when someone is playing her at the drop of a hat.
But she knows that someone is out there who is sincere.
But that is in God's hands.
Let me tell you why I typed this. I just read one of my ex's blogs. Yeah... I still check up on them and see what's up. I dated this guy in high school. He wasn't a member (pure Hell), and he had all of these crazy ideas. Little did I know in the back of his mind he was planning to get me to leave the Church. How foolish he was to think I would forsake the Lord, but how foolish I was to think I was stronger than Satan. The truth is, I am stronger than Satan, but when you wrap high school "love" into a situation, you think everything in your mind is right and what your parents say is wrong. I still remember all of the hurtful things I said to my mother when I was dating this guy. I remember when she wanted to see a movie and I didn't because I was angry. I was probably a thorn in her side and the cause of her tears at night. I prayed all the time that this guy would join the Church if it was right, that somehow he would see the light. I was meant to be the light, and I didn't do such a great job of that. He wouldn't have changed anyway... He's too stuck in his ways. I still remember the exact place and the exact words that my Mom said to me when I was talking about "what if" I married this guy. And she said, "everything that your Dad and I did would be for nothing." A slap in the face from Divine messengers speaking through my Mother. My Dad is the most important goal in my life. And yes, he is a goal. Because he is gone, I can not be with him and in order to see him again, I have to try all that I can to do the right things so I can live with him again. That is the driving force for me in this life, as well as other things.... don't misquote me.
But I have learned a lot of things from that ONE relationship.
#1 Never date a non-member
#2 Never encourage steady dating when my kids are in high school
#3 Always listen to your parents
#4 Listen and ACT upon the promptings of the Spirit
#5 When a guy gives me the same lines I have heard somewhere else, I know that he is skilled in the art of being a "player".
#6 I have a gift of discernment.
#7 Boys who want to major in Music and have their own bands or have some outlandish dreams that would not support a family are not for me.
On a lighter note. My toe is hurt. I do not know how it happened I went to the Doctor he said it's not infection, not fractured or broken. It's swollen and bruised. So he said there is trauma. I guess my poor toe was traumatized.
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2 comments:
I think it's wonderful to develop goals and expectations on what sort of person you ought to date. There are far too many women in this world who lack self-respect when it comes to men.
I've found that sadly, being a member is not in any sort of way a synonym for being a good person. Perhaps it ought to be, but it isn't. I dated a guy who I later discovered (I ended it upon discovery) to be engaged and cheating on his fiance with me and others. He had all the right titles, active member, return missionary, did a good job in his calling. I have met non-member men who have taken my breath away with their ability to love in a world that doesn't always accept that.
So for what it's worth, I feel that it's a little more complicated. I hope you're able to find a combination of a man in the church and who is good. :)
I think it's wonderful to develop goals and expectations on what sort of person you ought to date. There are far too many women in this world who lack self-respect when it comes to men.
I've found that sadly, being a member is not in any sort of way a synonym for being a good person. Perhaps it ought to be, but it isn't. I dated a guy who I later discovered (I ended it upon discovery) to be engaged and cheating on his fiance with me and others. He had all the right titles, active member, return missionary, did a good job in his calling. I have met non-member men who have taken my breath away with their ability to love in a world that doesn't always accept that.
So for what it's worth, I feel that it's a little more complicated. I hope you're able to find a combination of a man in the church and who is good. :)
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